F.U.B.A.R3732

Although it may have been a decent match for your ages depending on your maturity levels, I wouldn't be a very good friend if I didn't share my honest thoughts with you. So this is me trying to be a good, decent person and being honest with you, okay?
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I think that a teacher having a romantic and/or sexual relationship with a student is wrong. I know it';s the stuff of many fantasies and loads of porn, but fantasy is fantasy and we're talking reality here.
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You are a teacher. She is your student. I know romances between uni teachers and students happen but I'm not sure that makes it ethically sound or personally wise. Your students put a lot of trust and faith in you and the position you hold as their teacher. In fact, they're paying the uni - and you - for an education, not a romance. Perhaps it is unwise, on many counts and for many reasons, to shop for partners amongst them. It seems unprofessional and it is arguably an abuse of your position.
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It's over now and it's done. Soon this will be behind you. You got hurt and I'm sorry you hurt, However, in the future please reconsider becoming involved with a current student. Once they've graduated and gone out into the world the way that you already have, if you're still interested in them and they welcome your attentions, I don't think there's anything wrong with dating an alumni.
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I wish you the best of luck in the future and I hope your current pain brings enlightenment in its wake.

Forgive me, Danty, I was so concerned with how to address the ethical part of why the relationship was inappropriate in my mind (I was trying to be tactful and direct, a tough see saw to navigate) that I overlooked taking to you about the pain you feel and how to deal with that.
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Well, I have bad news. It's going to hurt. Whenever we invest ourselves in something or someone and it doesn't work it, it hurts. Many things in life will cause us pain. However, we are the measure of how we deal with it. So maybe I can give you a different way to look at pain and it might help.
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The good news is that your pain (and all your other feelings) belong to you. That's right, you have the opportunity to experience them and, although it might not feel so good sometimes, they can and often do bring enlightenment in their wake.
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You asked us how to get over it. Personally speaking, I hope none of us ever "gets over it". I think that's the wrong approach entirely. I think you should move THROUGH it. Allow yourself to think and feel. Give yourself that gift. You may be surprised, when things settle down for you, how many invaluable things you come to know about yourself and the world around you.
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Right now you are mourning the end of your relationship, regardless of its appropriateness. That's a loss. But you are also mourning the life you thought you had and the life you thought you would have with this young woman. You don;t just mourn the past, but the present and any future you imagined, knowingly or not, in your head. Don't you think you should allow yourself to do properly do that?
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Is a life worth living if it is never examined? I don;t think so. As you process your thoughts and feelings, I hope you find yourself asking you the tough questions. Not just about the ethics of your actions as I discussed with you before, but about what you want and need, and appropriate and healthy ways to meet those needs.
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How do you get over it? You don't. You move through it. And I'm not sure I'd want to know anyone who didn't respect and care for themselves enough to allow themselves the time and space to do that. So no jumping into instant relationships and no stupid antics. Treat yourself right and you'll go through these lessons once. Take short cuts and you'll be stuck in a loop of repeating the same mistakes until you learn them, and that sounds like hell to me.
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I say start by treating yourself to ice cream or something, and spending some quality time with you. When your relationship with you is right again, all else will fall into line. I promise. :)