posted 25 Sep 2012, 01:13
I've been here one year and have seen *many* users who once were active and enjoying themselves suddenly lose their minds and depart. Most of the times we will never know the real reason, even if they do share one side of the story.
This blog isn't to gossip about those who left, but try to understand how a person changes as time goes by. Some people think the people at KAT change for the worse, or the Mods/Staff are suddenly become unfair. My theory is different. The one thing that constantly changes is you :)~
Check out the diagram. Storming is a normal behavior to challenge authority and each other within any group situation. We do it in school, at work, social media sites, and even pirate sites. When that happens we all change but at different speeds and our reactions are different. Does KAT really change that much or maybe it is some people having trouble getting past the "Storming" phase so they can movie on to Norming and Performing. Or maybe they do Norm and Perform but at some point return to Storming all over again and that's where things break down.
Or maybe there is something beyond this diagram and there are other group dynamics, like power plays and creation of "better than you" cliques. Perhaps this diagram is limited and discounts Type-A personalities and control-freaks who want to run the whole show and not be a part of any group. The diagram does seem very democratic in nature. A dictator would not fit within this model at all.
Maybe I am straying form the topic. I do not know. The point is KAT remains fairly constant it is you who change. You make more friends, know more about how the site works, then start forming opinions on how things should be (I know I do and it's a challenge to place KAT first above my own interests).
So, this blog is to make you think about things in your life. Maybe you have a new boy or girlfriend. Maybe you have a new job or school. Get through these phases and try not to burn any bridges...
In closing, here is a damn kitten that sums this blog up hee hee